He or she is your partner and you feel like he or she is your everything to the extent that you share everything together without leaving a word behind.
That’s not bad, since a problem shared sometimes is a problem half solved but sometimes it’s best you keep somethings to yourself because some problems shared can cause more problems.
Yes.Keeping some few things to yourself is sometimes good for you especially when you see sharing it won’t give any spice to your relationship with your partner.
You have to weight some things you tell your partner. You have to first be in your partners shoe and ask yourself, if I am to be in his/her shoes and I am told this, how will I feel. When you get the answer and it’s positive, you can decided to share but if you did not feel good, why then do you have to force your mouth and tell him. It can lead to a lot of bad thinking in your relationship. Sometimes, silence is golden.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t discuss sensitive matters buzzing through your mind with your partner but sometimes, avoiding the listed topics below can help maintain your relationship and prevent any problems.
1. AVOID BRINGING SUBJECTS THAT WILL ALWAYS ANNOYS YOUR PARTNER
Since you have been with your partner, you might knows each others flaws and thus, you will know what makes him/her feels uncomfortable so when discussing issues with your partner, just try and make sure you leave out some subjects that will make them feel uncomfortable and annoyed.
Know how to raise issues and in a positive way even if it is something that can hurt your partners feelings.Its best to raise it in a positive way rather than raising it anyhow.
2.NEVER DISCUSS ABOUT HOW YOU ARE STILL FEELING ABOUT YOUR EX
Since the person has been your ex, no matter how you broke up with him/her which is either in a positive way or negative, you might sometimes remember him or her when somethings happen that you usually does it with him/her.
Do you think it’s best to be discussing about your left over feelings for your ex with the partner you are currently with, that’s a no for everyone. So far as you call that person your ex, never discuss anything you’ve shared with him to your current partner since it can make them think you still have something for your ex and thus makes them feel uncomfortable and afraid of ditching them to go back to your ex.
3. DON’T BE ALWAYS GIVING NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT YOUR PARTNERS FAMILY
If your partner brings out some issues about his family for a discussions, it’s best you give some advice you feel but in some other ways, know what you say because some partners can grade you based on how you handle his family issues. Always giving a dislike to your partners family makes them feel annoyed sometimes because in some cases, family first for everyone no matter how bad the family is treating him/her and always giving negative feelings about the family makes them have a second thought about you.
Sometimes, moving on well with the family can sometimes give you a guarantee in the relationship.
4.IF YOU FIND A FREIND OF YOUR PARTNER ATTRACTIVE, NEVER TELL YOUR PARTNER
Sometimes, having a little crush about someone is normal and you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.But it turns out to be in bad books when you find a friend of your partner attractive and you keep telling your partner how attractive the friend is.
Don’t you think that is a bad idea, put yourself in your partners shoes and tell me how you will feel if your partner keeps telling you how attractive your friend is. Will you feel comfortable?
If no, then why do you have to do it to your partner and be expecting a positive answer or reaction. It breeds jealousy,insecurity and many other negative thoughts.
If you happen to have a little mini crush, that’s fine. Just don’t tell your partner. As long as you aren’t acting on your thoughts, and they aren’t impacting your partner in any way, you may be better off keeping them to yourself.
5. IF YOU A HAVING DOUBTS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP, NEVER TELL YOUR PARTNER.
Its best you solve your doubts yourself than rather telling your partner.
Whatever you will say about the relationship can sometimes put it in jeopardy since it will make your partner feels you don’t value the relationship and for that reason, he/she will start having doubts. Unless you really mean it and you are ready to call it a quit, it’s best you sometimes keep such thoughts to yourself.
8. DON’T SHARE YOUR FAMILY’S OPINION WITH YOUR PARTNER.
It is not everything that your friends and family will say about your partner that has to be channeled to him/her.
Sometimes, some comments needs to be kept to yourself because some words can jeopardize your relationship if you don’t think twice about it and decides to share it to your partner.
Family approval really matters in a relationship and therefore, telling your partner negative stuffs from your family won’t help but will rather makes them feel uncomfortable since they will feel they are not accepted by your family.
9.DON’T DISCUSSTHINGS YOU MISS IN YOUR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP
Having some thoughts about your previous relationship is normal.Especially when your current relationship is new and you are lacking some happy moments you were getting in your previous relationship.
But discussing and comparing your previous relationship to your current relationship is very very bad.
If you are missing anything about your previous relationship, share it to yourself and endure it yourself. That’s the best solution to help prolong your relationship because comparing your previous relationship to your current one will make your partner feels he or she is not satisfying your needs well and will not feel comfortable with you since they might be afraid you will later go back to your previous relationship incase there is any misunderstanding.